What if Marriage is About More Than Love?

Wise words from Lucy Wicks MP, federal member for Robertson NSW. She points out that, as an ideal, we should keep marriage as a structure that gives children both a mother and father....

That is exactly what marriage does. And that is exactly what 'same-sex marriage' prevents. Why does such a common-sense statement now sound so revolutionary? Thank you, Ms Wicks, for speaking the gentle truth. Here is her speech before parliament this week:

Mr Deputy Speaker, what if, for a moment, as part of this debate, we actually dared to think through other possible implications of the consequences of a fundamental change to the definition of marriage.

What if it was more than about love? What if it’s also a question of a legacy for our children and our grandchildren and the generations to follow?

What if we carefully thought through the implications of changing the social framework for families and the raising of children…? Our next generation.

To take this further; What if we had a genuine conversation about the generational implications for the upbringing of children in changing the definition of marriage?

What if we dared to go even further and ask ourselves ‘does this matter?’

Not for ourselves, of course, because the ones who want to be able to make this very decision are grown, consenting adults.

But does it actually matter for children? For our children? For their children? For our children’s children? Beyond just the legal recognition of their parents’ relationship.

Of course, we know families today are not just nuclear families that reflect the ‘so called’ traditional marriage framework. But single parent, same sex and blended families living in towns and cities, on farms and in suburbs right around our country.

So, given this reality, is the current definition of marriage even relevant today?

I would argue that it absolutely is because regardless of whether you’re married, de facto couple, single parent or same-sex couple, the institution of marriage, in my view, exists as a reference point for families.

I believe it works as a reference point, or a framework that recognises that children, where possible, need a mother and a father, or a mother and father figure to help them best make sense of who they are as they grow.

It’s a framework that’s existed for centuries now and a framework that works well. Even in a society where marriage is no longer the only family structure where children are raised. Because it actually means that regardless of what family you belong to, there still exists a reference point in law, that states the significance of a male role model and a female role model for children.

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6 Responses

  1. Lucy spoke very well and succinctly in her debate; we do need a blueprint on what marriage was, is now and should be for the future a solid template that we go back to for direction, definition,

    truth, purpose, meaning, growth, positive outcomes for the groundwork of society, productivity. and lots more………etc. Marriage is an ancient treasure to be valued, preserved, protected. When

    all else fails, we will turn back to the basics of common sense and what is most natural in nature. Teresa

  2. MP Lucy Wicks is fighting for the foundation that the Prime Minister does not see. As the Psalmist said millennia ago (Psalm 11) “If the foundation is destroyed what can the righteous do?” The unrighteous have come in by another door than integrity of character. Australias’ people must awake to righteousness, repent, and say “Thus far and no further.” If we allow them to destroy the foundational family, the structure will fall on us all. Is it too late? Are we a Samsonic generation of party-goers?

    • It is so refreshing but a rarity to hear a politician speak out. Most seem to feel that their careers are of their own making. This is not so. A politician who feels like he has climbed to the top of the pile and is trying to remain there is not good for the country. God delivered Judea from the all conquering Assyrian king Sennacherib because Isaiah knew that God was in command & King Hezekiah would not budge. The Bible is full of wisdom and examples for us to follow – and quite clearly God places people into power – not themselves. So when a member refuses to voice the concerns of his or her electorate, the only conclusions we can draw are they are out for themselves and downtrod by the spirit of the age – the intolerant spirit of tolerance. Just remember that equality is at the other end of the spectrum to liberty – and we are losing more and more liberty in the name of equality. God is in control – I think the Christian church has become a social club in a lot of places. We are called to bring the best news to the world – not to fight individual people but principalities and powers. There is a line between being of the world but not in the world, and making straight paths for our feet – and only the wisdom of the Holy Spirit can show that balance to us – just like many other things in life (equality v liberty/exercise v rest/faith v works/family v community/work v play), if we are outward focused and full of Jesus and daily in the Word there is nothing God can not d

  3. o

    Then came the word of the Lord by Haggai the prophet, saying,

    Is it time for you, O ye, to dwell in your cieled houses, and this house lie waste?

    Now therefore thus saith the Lord of hosts; Consider your ways.

    Ye have sown much, and bring in little; ye eat, but ye have not enough; ye drink, but ye are not filled with drink; ye clothe you, but there is none warm; and he that earneth wages earneth wages to put it into a bag with holes.

    Thus saith the Lord of hosts; Consider your ways.

    Go up to the mountain, and bring wood, and build the house; and I will take pleasure in it, and I will be glorified, saith the Lord.

    Haggai 1 3-8

    • A small verse from the Bible which means: if we do not stand by and do not stand against the powers and principalities that are dragging this country up -dragging most of the word up it seems – then what goodi are we? If we eat, drink, and earn money and ignore the collapse of morality around us, then that poison will affect us ultimately. WE are living sacrifices – the temple, or the work of the Lord, is what we must pray and meditate on – Israel rebuilt under the Babylonians – now even the Victorian premier is not as bad as them (in some ways he’s worse) and Israel was there for millenia to demonstrate the ways of the Lord to other countries. Our culture is watching and there is no fading into the background – our marriages, our families and communities are the salt of the earth and if the laws are against God, then we will be at loggerheads with the law. It has happened since there has been civilisation: Daniel in Babylon Joseph in Egypt, and Christians who refused to worship Caesar and paid with their lives. WE have a wonderful legacy and should remember our history – however it is not our job to pass laws as a church. The only way this country will stop the rot is on a case by case and personal level: one look at the news or paper and you can see the price we are paying. To actually encourage people to ruin their lives and the lives of their children by destroying the meaning of family is only going to hasten this decline. Not to mention: all the new Australians from other countries will now know for sure that we have no moral centre and therefore no right to condemn the pagan/communist/polygamous ideals that they may have brought with them.

  4. An interesting coincidence, Lucy Wicks is one of only two MPs who use the title Mrs. There are 26 who use Ms, and none using Miss.

    For reference, 56 MPs are Mr, 3 are Dr, and 63 are the Hon, of which 4 are the Hon Dr.

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